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would it be a break of decor to talk to someone out of game who really doesn't like your character in game to make sure that i am not infringing on his experience of the game?
 
Nah, just pick a time and place that isn't going to interrupt the flow of game, and go for it. If you can catch them while they're out of character for something else, all to the better.
 
I don't think so. I also play another game where much of the interaction between players is political scheming, back stabbing, and even assassinations. Whenever I have an intense rivalry/fight with someone IG who I don't know well, I try to make time to chat with them out of game. Not necessarily say "hey, just wanted to make sure you understood this is just a game", because some people take offense that you would think they would take IG in an OGG way, however I think it is important to touch base with players whose characters have regular fights/rivalries with. I think we should have social interaction between players, like going to a restaurant together after an event/faire day just to cement the idea we're all LARPers here just trying to have some fun.
 
i guess i'm just trying to make sure, because i'm playing a rather quirky character, that i am not ruining his fun with something as stupid as lying about my heritage or talking like a pirate
 
i would say if you think there is a reason someone may get upset OOG at the way you act IG, then it would be a good gesture to talk to them OOG to make sure that is not the case. So long as you dont interrupt game play to do so, I dont see why any person would get upset at you for doing that...
 
I play a character that is actively hated by a fair number of other characters in my home chapter. The way I see it, if such grudges and rivalries did not exist, this game would be a lot less fun. And there is nothing wrong with a quick OOC check in with other players just say all in good fun, you know it's just in-game. This is usually followed by some kind of very macho man hug, and often a cigarette break. I think once we did that whole weird frat boy punch it in thing. Now that was awkward.
 
As someone who's played a very intense and frankly murderous character... I think it's a great idea to talk to people out-of-game. In fact, I wish more people would take that extra step to make sure "hey, dude, we're cool right?" so there's a clear difference between "my character hates your character and wants them to die" and "I want to ruin your good time at game".

I'll actually go further than others at times.. this is just my personal vagaries, BTW, and not something anyone needs to do.. but if I thought I might be upsetting someone OOG in the moment with my actions, I might go "hey, OOG, you know this is all in-game, right? we good to go?".. because if not, I want to stop right then, regardless of what my character might usually choose to do.. given that I'm writing my own script, I can come up with whatever justification I want for any action at any time. To me, the point of a game is for everyone to play and have fun. I cherish immersion and the "losing yourself in the game" experiences we all get.. yet I cherish much more knowing that everyone gets to have a great time at game, and that I'm enhancing it rather than taking away.

Makes a big difference, and helps the culture as a whole when people take that time. When I first started playing, I didn't always do that - and I still regret today knowing that at times my character detracted from the fun others were having.
 
Personally I try to make it a point to check with OOG when my character is beefing with someone else IG to make sure they know it's all IG. This was something I learned the hard way, but it's default now for me.
 
I prefer the first statement to the second unless it looks like the other player is OOG crying or something. I have had people come up to me and say "no hard feelings" or whatever but to me that goes without saying. "Hey I'm having fun playing with you" would be a good way to start this kind of conversation if you ask me.
Morganne said:
... I think it's a great idea to talk to people out-of-game. In fact, I wish more people would take that extra step to make sure "hey, dude, we're cool right?"
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I might go "hey, OOG, you know this is all in-game, right? we good to go?"
 
I also pretty much agree with what everyone else has been saying here. I find it very helpful and comforting when others take the time to make a quick OOG check that I'm not upset OOG or anything about whatever IG shenanigans are happening.

For example a few weeks ago in CT there was some serious PC drama happening Saturday afternoon and a hold was called for whatever reason. And everyone kind of snapped out of the IG angst and smiled and said some nice things to each other so that we all knew it was all IG. It was a brief but nice moment. And like Christina said if someone is getting upset OOG I would come up with whatever justification I needed to change what I'm doing because I don't feel like any amount of the game is worth loosing OOG friends.
 
New Question: What if somone IG is harassing you IG within the rules to the point you dont want to play anymore? Keeping in mind that it'ed be completely out of charecter to kill or have killed said iritant.
 
I personally stop talking in OOG moments where enemies to my character walk by. Those little moments in which I can tense up and really use my whole mind and body to just flat out hate those rotten $&@/% OOG really adds to the method acting I employ for enhanced IG performance. I've tried not hating them OOG, but that really weakens the experience. Plus, I'm generally so full of unbridled rage that it's almost physically dangerous for me not to work it out through menacing glares and baffilingly unmerited violent fantasies.

That's my advice. :D
 
Deadlands said:
I personally stop talking in OOG moments where enemies to my character walk by. ---%<--CLIP--- Plus, I'm generally so full of unbridled rage that it's almost physically dangerous for me not to work it out through menacing glares and baffilingly unmerited violent fantasies.

That's my advice. :D

I like your approach :lol:
 
Deadlands said:
I personally stop talking in OOG moments where enemies to my character walk by. Those little moments in which I can tense up and really use my whole mind and body to just flat out hate those rotten $&@/% OOG really adds to the method acting I employ for enhanced IG performance. I've tried not hating them OOG, but that really weakens the experience. Plus, I'm generally so full of unbridled rage that it's almost physically dangerous for me not to work it out through menacing glares and baffilingly unmerited violent fantasies.

That's my advice. :D

Gary fails to mention his unbridled rage manifests itself in sparkly shirts and other metrosexual outlets. The physical danger comes into play with his tendency to spray around a lot of axe body spray. ;)

Scott
 
Scott, Scott, Scott, come now. As you well know, axe body spray is only applied that heavily by frat boy jamokes who shave their heads and play football.

I know, the good ole days, where have they gone?

Lately I've been wearing Brut, Revolution because yes, I'm THAT secure, and because I live within walking distance of a dollar store.
 
hahaha well the biggest reason i am concerned is that the guy has been a central figure in the larp group for a long time, he is at the build cap, and i am about to attend my third event.

its one thing if i have the same status as the guy, but when it comes to the pecking order oog, i'm lower down by a good amount. i figure it would be an extremely **** thing for me to do to come in and piss him off so that he goes.
 
dragonfire8974 said:
hahaha well the biggest reason i am concerned is that the guy has been a central figure in the larp group for a long time, he is at the build cap, and i am about to attend my third event.

its one thing if i have the same status as the guy, but when it comes to the pecking order oog, i'm lower down by a good amount. i figure it would be an extremely **** thing for me to do to come in and piss him off so that he goes.


My advice? Don't worry about the pecking order when it comes to talking to people OOG to make sure they're cool with stuff. They're out trying to have a good game, just like you, and taking a minute to make sure you're both having fun is far from a tasteless manuver.
 
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