All,
Let's try to calm down just a bit here, given my marriage I can assure you I have encountered at least some of the strain when cultures clash.
Banradi, Nikolai, Please consider there is a difference between not allowing your culture to be dominated by another, and looking for a places where you can make such independence an issue where it is not needed. Banradi your first response in this dream was disrespectful of others voicing their concerns. Just as you should not be trampled upon, you have no right to do the same to Eldandiril nor the Duke, even if the discussion disturbed your peaceful dreams. The Duke did not poke in and make demands of you, you decided to call him out by his first name, which is something you know specifically to be disrespectful to our nobility, even if in your culture it would not be considered such.
I'm not saying you should not defend your ways but in this case it appears clear you came looking to pick a fight, and are the initiator. The Duke has shown himself to be a friend to the Adventurers a number of times and broke bread with many at the recent nobling celebration of Lord Wyldweaver.
It is clear that in some ways the Duke is uninformed of Familia culture, that should not be a surprise, or insult as these are things that are not generally meant to be known to outsiders, or at least so my wife tells me. It is generally by her grace I manage not to make a fool of myself after all.
Can we perhaps let the insult of not knowing what he is not meant to know lay. Let us allow tempers to simmer down and have the follow up discussion over good food and wine, perhaps ask Cyn to join you as she'll be happen to scold all of you equally for bad behavior.
-Lord Enan Bluewater